You do it. You do a dance of togetherness, a partnership of working towards goals, of managing life, of supporting each other. I guess going on my 29th year of marriage with three kids, I have experience of that but I'd never thought about it as an art form. My life is my tableaux and living is an art, and most is not done publicly; a tabula rasa in progress. But these guys, right, make you think, which is what art is supposed to do.
Miller & Shellabarger are two performance art guys who call themselves a husband and husband team. Reminds me of the Art Guys in Houston who made lamps out of macaroni but you can't buy their works because their message is in the doing of it.
At Art Basel Miami Beach this weekend, they sat crocheting with pink yarn in the middle of exhibit space at NADA. Their performances are "always together, always in public" and they document the bittersweet rhythms of human relationships. Their work shifts between moments of togetherness and moments of separation, between spaces of private and public, protection and pain and visibility and invisibility. (via Irene Sperber)
The dance of parenthood: For me, getting two children at college in two states to an ear, nose and throat doctor and other support while they suffer through finals weeks (need stylebook references for those research papers? Michael Leddy has links). For Susie J, it is extreme ironing - using an iron to feed the kids.